I've often wished I wasn't so quick to share my dreams, especially writing dreams. There is such a long space of time between sharing the dream and anything happening. But questions on when my book is coming out spur me on. lol
The Four Main Reasons People Don’t Dare to Dream
People ask me frequently why I felt the need to write Dare to Dream, A Writer’s Journal. The answer is simple. I meet so many people who have a dream but are afraid to live it. Somehow, some way, they’ve convinced themselves they shouldn’t pursue it. That thought is utterly depressing for me for two reasons:
1) Your dream is too important to remain unlived. You deserve to pursue your dream.
2) You’re not in a dress rehearsal. This is your one shot at life. Once it’s gone, it’s gone.
I’ve dedicated my life to helping others move from dreaming to doing. As I research why some make it and some don’t, there are four primary reasons that appear to be most common.
1) Not believing in themselves. This is the most prevalent reason. It seems there are many people who doubt their own ability. They live each day with their own brilliance, and yet they believe something different.
2) Peer pressure. This is normally the result of the first reason, not believing themselves. They share their dream with their friends and colleagues, only to be told it’s not worth living. Rather than following their heart, many people follow their peers.
3) Fear of Failing. Our society is partly responsible to for this one. You attempt something and you don’t succeed and the real failure is that you fail to appreciate the wisdom that is imbedded in that fail. You conclude it’s a negative and painful thing and you are wired to avoid pain.
4) Fear of Commitment. Once they put a dream, goal, plan or intent out there, eyes are on them to perform and to succeed. It’s a pressure cooker, especially if things aren’t going as well as you’d hoped. And, when you begin to lose ground, it’s excruciating. You conclude that, if you don’t commit, you won’t suffer the pain of failing on stage.
Here’s the challenge with giving in to any of those reasons. Not living your dream will leave you empty, disappointed and unfulfilled. You’ll feel lost, wandering in a ship without a sail in the sea of life.
Because your dream is your true north, it will serve as your guide, your beacon in the storm. It will give you the courage to endure the pain and gale force winds of adversity. You’ll be able to tack into the wind and set sail for new horizons. And, there is no greater feeling than to be living your dream.
Today’s challenge:Review the four reasons above and determine whether your forward progress has been halted by one of them. Write down the reason(s), as well has how your thinking was incorrect.
Do you have a dream you’re sitting on? Share it here. I dare you.